Proverbs 31:10-12, 28-31

Proverbs 31:10-12, 28-31 New King James Version (NKJV)

The Virtuous Wife

10 Who[a] can find a virtuous[b] wife? For her worth is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; So he will have no lack of gain.

12 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her:

29 “Many daughters have done well, But you excel them all.”

30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands, And let her own works praise her in the gates.

Dr. Gough:

"A woman who honors the Lord deserves to be praised; show her respect, praise her in public for what she has done" (Proverbs 31:30 CEV) Do it as you can.

--Today America honors mothers and others in a family.

--The Christian family deserves our attention.

--For usually mothers are the heart of a godly home.

--Proverbs 31 tells us how to promote such a family.

--It even offers good advice on how to pick a wife.

Remember the Fifth Commandment, "Honor your father and mother, that your days may be long on the land the Lord you God is giving you" (Exodus 20:12).

--For bringing us into the world, their loving teaching and care when we couldn't care for ourselves, parents will always merit our deepest devotion.

--Mothers and others let us ever "honor," love, respect, and care for, God has commanded us all.

There are all kinds of jobs, a mother's is greatest.

--Creating - spiritually shaping - lives of leaders.

--To a great extent, determining a child's future.

--For the home or family comes first with the Lord.

--That is what Genesis is all about, God in the home.

--The Bible says, "Honor the Lord" (Proverbs 3:9), also "Honor your father and mother."

--Of the Ten Commands, it is the one with a promise, "that your days may be long on the land."

Jesus honored His mother, by His first miracle, at a wedding in Cana, by His mother's request.

--Mary was an ideal mother. What makes one ideal?

--M - is for motivator. Motivates our goals, faith.

--O - is for organizer. Without it,chaotic homes.

--T - is for trust. She trusts God. Trusts us.

--H - is for helper. She's always ready to help us.

--E - is for encourager. Moms know how to do that!

--R - is for remembers. To pray, birthdays, so much.

--Mothers make the family a team - a winning team.

--They "train up a child in the way he should go..."

God looks for mothers and others God can use.

--Worldly ways, like termites, can erode families.

A godly home is where strife is shut out, love shut in.

--Where the small are great. The great are small.

--Where there is respect for the Lord and each other.

--Care for the hurting. Salvation and laughter abound.

--If Jesus is in the home, it is God's heaven on earth!

A little girl was asked where home was, said, "Where my mother is!" Children! So precious.

We know little of King Lemuel. We best know his mother.

--He gives us good stuff his mother taught him.

--She no doubt wondered what her boy would be, "born in answer to my prayers, so listen carefully" (v 2 CEV)

--This mother dedicated him to God. Prayed for him.

--Now she says, "God has a plan for you. Listen up."

--What is it? All should know God has a plan for you.

--"Keep your life pure. Be honest, fair, just, kind."

Then, verse 10, she gives good advice to choose friends.

--Or a life's companion - "A truly good wife (husband), is the most precious treasure (one) can find."

--It is the second most important decision of life - it is exceeded only by choosing a Savior for eternity!

--My dear friends, choose well your dates and mates.

--Life is a long time with the one you marry.

--Note the qualifications listed in verses 11-27.

--After 3000 years, still some of God's best.

Do we have a family altar? Where all gather to pray?

--What is your family guide book for a happy home?

--People buy all kinds of guide-books, neglect a Bible.

--A king was told "the words .. his mother taught him."

--I thank God for my parents' teaching, and prayers!

--Mom taught as much by her life, as anything else.

There are many great mothers in and out of Scripture.

--Susannah Wesley, mother of John and Charles, is one.

--She spent one hour each day praying for her 17 children - that is why they all turned out so well.

--John and Charles Wesley saved England, founded Methodism, and won countless people to Christ!

--Susannah Wesley had rules, and God's Word, she gave.

--Do we, or can we, have that kind of mothers, today?

Look at Proverbs 31, each verse like an alphabet, A-Z.

--Used to teach children, in home and school.

--Look how this mother concludes her counsel, "Charm is deceiving, and beauty fades away, but a (person) who honors the Lord deserves to be praised" (v 30).

--Mother's Day, any day, is good to ponder each word.

--Charm and beauty are good, but godliness lasts!

--She or he who "honors the Lord, deserves praise."

--No wonder Billy Graham used to often read Proverbs.

Ruskin wrote, "The best women are known in the happiness of their husbands, and the nobleness of children.

Here are some noble qualities for a mother or wife.

--Ideals, everyone of us should seek to emulate.

--In verse 15 and following, "she is good every day."

--Industrious, "with her hands she makes things."

--"Prepares food for family." Aren't you glad?

--"She knows how to buy land, and how to plant."

Growing up, mother led the way, with a good breakfast.

--Clothes always clean. Hug, kiss, prayer, then school.

--Back then, moms made and mended lots of things.

--I tell you, parents have done a lot! Our thanks!

--I know you care about your moms and dads.

--My friend, if you can, tell them, and show them.

I will never forget one dear mother I often visited.

--Not in my church, but one we ministered to.

--She told me, "I'm mad. I'm mad at God. Really mad."

--At first I thought she was kidding. She was serious.

--"Why?" I asked. "Because God took my daughter."

--"Took your grown daughter?" "Yes." "How?"

--She recently died of cancer. Left two children.

--I expressed sympathy and listened to her story.

She said, "I had prayed she be healed. God took her."

--"I'm not going to pray, go to church, or give to God any more; because God did me wrong! Took my girl."

--She was heart-broken. What would you say?

I silently prayed. Deeply felt her hurt, loss, grief.

--Gave her lots of Scriptures .. and explanations.

--That God loves us as a Father; knows best.

--That, as Christians, we go to be with God, where one suffers no more with Jesus. We shall meet again.

--Mothers have the tenderest feelings of love.

This dear mother didn't stay mad at the Lord.

--How can we, if we understand His love? Will?

Life may be unfair. God is more than fair, my friend.

--Moms, dads, children, can be snatched away any time.

--But in His love, if saved, go to be with the Lord!

--In a better place, than the best of this old world.

--Some accident - like took my mother. Or a disease.

--Some things we cannot prevent. Others we can!

--Like anger. Division. Divorce. Selfishness. Evil.

--"Love one another!" It is all through the Bible!

--Is the "command" of Jesus. Is the thing that works.

--Make your relationships joyous, loving memories!

Jesus, as a boy in Nazareth, studied Proverbs at home, and in school. He knew all this Bibe, God's Word.

--We ought to know it. The book to live by. Grow by.

--No one can call himself educated without this study.

Jesus was devoted to his mother, Mary, all His days.

--Even on the cross, Jesus saw she was cared for, putting Mary in the care of the Apostle John.

--He cared for His earthly mother, as we should ours.

As good as Mary was, she needed a Savior like we all.

--Listen to Mary, "My soul magnifies the Lord, my spirit has rejoiced in God my Savior." (Luke 1:47).

--That mother's advice is good for all to practice!

A mother whose daughter was ill came to Jesus, "Have pity on me, my daughter is severely demon-possessed," (Matthew 15:21-28). A simple prayer; left it to Jesus.

--Jesus said, "O woman, great is your faith. Let it be as you desire." Her faith brought about healing!

--Great! Yet healing is not everything! Salvation is!

Jesus came to "seek and save sinners" such as we all.

--Died on a cross, in our place. Arose, victorious!

--Defeated the devil. Disease. All our doubts.

--To give pardon. Power, to "keep us from falling."

--He can "wipe away all tears from our eyes."

--He has "prepared a place in heaven" (John 14:2)

--Why not be "born again" in Him, and enjoy all this?

--Why not come to Christ? You? All the family?

--To please God, mom, dad!

Wilbert D. Gough, ThD., DD., 779